Another post on Facebook of a pregnancy announcement! You like and comment ‘congrats!’ and continue to go about your day. But you don’t go about your day, you think about it and wonder why can she get pregnant, but not me?
James and I have been trying to have a baby for 5 months now. I know it is nowhere near being considered as infertile, nor is this post about that. This is about facing that disappointment, month after month, that this was not the month of conception. James and I waited for almost a year before getting my birth control removed. We wanted to wait because we were in college and did not have full time jobs; we knew we wanted a steadier environment before bringing in a new addition to our family. When we got news James got this job in Colorado, we immediately scheduled an appointment to get the birth control removed. (I had Nexplanon, the implant in your arm. One word, ouch!) We felt such excitement and happiness at the thought of having a baby, because everything was going the way we wanted! We were smart and waited till we had a stable household, why wouldn’t it happen soon, we did everything right! Our family was going to grow, and we were going to be parents!
But, here we are 5 months later, still no luck. I have had a few break down moments where I just sob to Jim and ask “why not me?” One of my close friends who has been trying about the same length as I have is now pregnant and this made me realize something. I shouldn’t be feeling envious of other expecting mothers, I should just let things fall into place! I am so happy for everyone else and their pregnancies, because that is going to be such a huge change in their lives. What I realized is, I have an amazing husband that I can be selfish with. I get his full attention and we can leave and go on dates, or travel, or do anything we want without having to worry about kids right now. When we have kids, we won’t get this freedom to this extent and so I am going to enjoy every moment of it. I’m not saying being a mother is terrible and makes you house bound or anything, I’m saying that this is God’s way of telling us the time will come, enjoy the moment.
I shared this quote from Elder Neil. L. Andersen on my Instagram awhile back, when we had been trying for a few months. It states, “Motherhood is a calling. It is not a hobby. It is not something to do if you can squeeze the time in. It is what God gave you time for.” Motherhood is a calling, something God chooses when the time is perfect for you. Don’t be discouraged if you have been trying for a while. I’ve read several places that stressing about pregnancy, will definitely not help in getting pregnant. I advise you not to waste your time on Ovulation apps, been there, done and stressed over that. (or buying countless Ovulation Prediction Kits!)
If you find yourself being surrounded by pregnancies and it becomes too much for you, find ways on how you can cut that out of your life. Unfollow friends who may be making you upset by over sharing their pregnancies, regretfully decline baby showers and send them a gift, or maybe just avoid social media if you are feeling over flooded with pregnancy announcements. Trust me, I understand how hard this is, but just know when the time comes for you, not only will you finally understand what took so long for your dear blessing to come, but also you'll have a better understanding and empathy for those who are continuing to struggle.
My mom struggled with infertility for years, and when she adopted my sister, boom, she got pregnant with me. Obviously I know this isn't always the case, but it seems when you least expect it, God gives you more blessings. God knows the plan before we do, so just keep your trust in him and know his plan will unfold for you in time.
Don’t envy others who are soon-to-be mothers. Because in the end, any new life coming onto this earth is a joyous occasion. Congratulate that friend on Facebook, ask mothers questions for your future reference, and just keep moving forward. Enjoy your time being together with the man in your life, because I’m sure some mothers wish to remember what a quiet house feels like!
How do you deal with everyone else being pregnant, but not you? Stay positive and let it happen when it is meant to happen. For those of you struggling with infertility, my heart and prayers go out to you. I cannot fathom what you are going through, nor am I claiming to be infertile or anything of that sorts. God bless to you all.
Update: The Day we Prayed for
Hey everyone! I hope I'm not the only one who struggles with styling a maxi skirt... I love how comfy they are, and it is a huge plus that it is super modest. The problem I've faced, is I struggle with styling it without me looking sloppy and lazy. Maybe it's just me haha. But, I finally feel like I can rock a maxi skirt and I love that this is a modesty hack as well! This top is actually a dress, that is way too short on me! But I am a huge lover of stripes and I wanted to figure out how to keep it in my wardrobe.
If you are in to online shopping, love affordable glasses, and need a new pair to rock this spring, look no further! Eye Buy Direct has the latest styles and trends at an affordable price. I love the amazing quality of these, and you would have never guessed I bought them online! I found Eye Buy Direct through fellow Instagram users, and I am so happy I did! I reached out to them for a collaboration, so yes I received these items for review but that in no way changes my opinion on them.
I usually never wear my glasses out in public, but after receiving the Black Eloise eye glasses, I love wearing them anywhere, anytime! They are so easy to style and I love that the black rim is only on the upper half. It makes it look less harsh, and these glasses look so chic! THE secret to looking great, cute, sexy (whatever haha) in glasses is: find glasses for your face shape!
I love the black rim and cat eye shape, because it is not too harsh and I feel like it brings out my eyes even more. (that is something some glasses do the opposite of!) I have pretty big eyes, so finding glasses that have larger lenses and avoid making me look dorky is a huge win in my eyes! haha get it?
If you have bigger eyes, these glasses are perfect for ya. I have a pair that have a full black rim and I feel like it obstructs my view and I'm constantly seeing the black. With this pair, I love that the bottom is rimless because my view is not obstructed at all.
If you need to, go to the store and try on different pairs to find out what looks best with your face shape! I also found this pinterest post that could help, here!
Also, if you are on the internet surfing a ton like I am, they offer a lens that protects against the high energy blue light emitted by computers.
The second pair of glasses I got are sunglasses, and I am in love! I love sunglasses, but have never found a pair that I would want to "splurge on". Eye Buy Direct has a new line called RFLKT (like reflect) and this pair is the Horizon, in Marbled Tortoise. I love the neutral colors and I chose the lenses that fade lighter at the bottom. These go with any outfit and they aren't heavy, which I have found as a problem with other sunglasses I've owned.
Here is a close up of the sunglasses! I love love love the design of the frame! If you go to their new like RFLKT, they also have chic eyeglasses if this seems more of your style.
Just to add too, their website not only carries women's and men's, but they have a children's line as well. There is a huge collection of everything imaginable, any color, any shape, and a lot of options for the actual lenses!
You can even add a prescription to your sunglasses, which is great for those who aren't comfortable with contacts and have to either sacrifice by squinting in the sun with your eyeglasses, or being blind in your sunglasses. (yes, been there done that!)
Thank you guys so much for reading! If you are in the market for new glasses, I seriously suggest to check out Eye Buy Direct. I have gone through many pairs of eyeglasses through the years, and these are by far my favorite and most affordable! So holla for cheap, cute things! haha. Which pair do you like better, the Black Eloise, or the Horizon Marbled Tortoise? Let me know down below!
It has been a hot minute since I have done my nails! I've been pretty lazy lately and just painting them, but I really enjoy doing nail art. I did a little tutorial so you can try out this look too, it would look great with any colors of your choice. I chose to do more neutrals to keep it simple and to match any outfit. (yes, I'm that kind of person to match my nails to my outfit!) This takes about 10 minutes to do, but will look like you took hours. Um, yeah sign me up! Let's get started.
Hello! Today I am talking about one of my favorite topics: my puppy! Pepper is now 5 months old and I have only made one other post about her! (linked here) I have learned a thing or two since having her and she is kind of my first puppy that I solely have to care for so if you are a first time pet owner, I'm with ya! Also, this is more geared towards the pet owners who live in an apartment building type set up. But, most of these will work with any scenario.
I have compiled a list, as well as some tips, on what you need for your puppy! Just a heads up, some of the links are affiliated. What this means, is if you decide to buy these must have products, I will get a small commission for it. Really, it's a win win for us both haha.
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