I'm sure all military significant others can attest to the first month of deployment being the hardest. It takes about 25 days to develop or change your habits, and that first month is full of transitioning to your life without your loved one.
It is so difficult to adjust to waking up alone, handling all of the once shared responsibilities, and just not talking to them everyday. As a military family, it is a reality we face and are expected to deal with.
Sometimes outsiders may say "well you signed up for this, you knew what you were getting into"! To a point yes, we all understand what is expected of military members, but nothing can compare us for how deployments will make us feel until we go through it.
While you can never fully prepare for a deployment, I did want to share some tips on how to get through that first month.
First, allow yourself some "grieving, not-so-good" days. It's normal to feel sad, and there's no shame in letting it out. If that means you lay in bed cuddled up in his shirts, looking through photos, or just crying it out- by all means do it. Not bottling it up will give you that "closure" and it is okay to feel sad!
But notice I said allow yourself some days, staying positive and focusing your energy on other things will help you through this first month and entire deployment. Start by setting a bucket list for yourself. If you moved home to family, make a list of people and favorite spots you want to see before the end of this time. If you are staying at your duty station, plan to get together with friends or attend events, and be a tourist in your temporary home.
Setting expectations and goals for this time will not only make it seem like time is going by faster, but it gives you things to look forward to.
Also, during this first month set up a routine for yourself. Start and end your days with the intentions of living every day to the fullest. Whether that's working out, going to your job, watching your favorite Netflix show, or doing schoolwork; try and have as many plans as possible.
Last but not least, remember this is an adjustment period for them too. They are adjusting to being overseas, most often in an unsecure FOB or area and trying to assimilate to that atmosphere. It's tough on them, no matter how many times they deploy, to go through that adjustment time. Be understanding and supportive, and keep this in mind while they are getting situated there.
Be as available as possible to enjoy those sweet, precious phone calls, but also understand it's not always an option with connection.
Go into the deployment knowing it won't always be easy, but changing your mindset and having these things in mind can make it a little easier. From one military spouse to another, the greatest thing you can hold on to during this time is loving and supporting them, and to be fearless.
Are you currently going through a deployment, or have previously?
I am sure I'm not the only one who has a Pinterest board full of marble countertops in my "dream home" board! Something about the look just feels so clean, sophisticated, and fancy. When we moved into our home I immediately wanted to cover the not-so-appealing bathroom counter tops and remembered seeing a few video tutorials of people using contact paper to take their counters from drab to fab. I thought I would give it a shot and here is how it really went down!
First off, I pawned my project off on my husband. With cutting in a straight line being a requirement, I figured this project would have better luck in his hands haha! We picked up this peel and stick shelf liner from Lowe's and it was about $5. We also bought a box cutter but I luckily found my Xacto knife and it was more precise and easier to control.
He did a few measurements of the width and length of the counter tops and did the main surface in two pieces. Our counter is a little tricky because of the curved back and square side but he just did the side in a different take and you can't even tell the separation!
This paper is just peel and stick so once you peel of the backing you can get started! He lined it up with the edge of the counter and had it a little longer than the length to compensate for the curved top. He roughly cut out the sink so he could move the liner easier. The only thing about this liner is it is very prone to air bubbles! Make sure you go slow and have the patience to pick it up and smooth it out several times haha.
Using the Xacto knife, he cut along the sink's rim and did the same for the wall portion. Go slow to prevent ripping the paper and press down and let the knife lead the way along the edges.
And that's it! Now we have a Pinterest- worthy bathroom and I am so in love with it! I feel like it looks a thousand times better and it's such an inexpensive change, I highly recommend! This would be a great project for those renting or living in base housing because you can remove it when you are moving out! I'm excited to see how it holds up and am super proud of my husband for tackling this project haha Good thing this is The Stratton's blog and I get to rope him into helpful posts like this!
Thank you for reading and I would love to know if you give this a try!
Happy Friday!!! So excited to be ending this week on a positive note and I look forward to this weekend! J will be working on his new old truck with a friend and I plan on getting some much needed house work done! Ever since I started working full time and getting pregnant, I just have no energy and cleaning has been put on the back burner!
It is finally warming up here in Colorado and has been in the high sixties/ seventies all week and it's amazing. I hope it continues to stay warm because I look forward to spending more time outdoors and enjoying the sunshine!
As you know from my last post, I've had a great time buying maternity clothes! I didn't think I would score so many great finds and they have been my primary wardrobe lately. The bump seems to have grown overnight and my pipe dream of wearing my regular clothes until the third trimester have quickly vanished! haha I put together this fun maternity clothing haul and filmed it a few weeks ago, and thought it would be helpful to demonstrate the pieces on too! I hope you really enjoy this video and have a great weekend!
Thank you to Shop Pink Blush Maternity for sending me these pieces for review!
As an avid lover of clothes, I was so excited to start my maternity wardrobe. However, I love sticking to a budget and not splurging too much on clothes; especially because they are typically worn for 9 months. I started looking into different clothing pieces and found three exquisite dresses that not only can I wear throughout this pregnancy in different ways, but also after!
All of these dresses I would deem "must haves" for every first time mom to have in her wardrobe! I have found so many different looks and occasions these are oh so perfect for that I just had to share with all of you. I am so in love with all of these cute maternity dresses and I hope they help give you ideas on what you could pair them up with! Also for size reference, I ordered a small in everything.
I am first going to share this must have, even though it's not one of my three dresses. My husband chose this adorable white and black floral robe and not only do I love wearing it every morning, but it also will be my delivery robe. I love the silky fabric and the wider sleeves, I feel so comfy in it and I love how breathable it is for the summertime!
With our baby being due in August, I knew I would be spending the bulk of this pregnancy in the heat and I kind of got worried to be honest! I was unsure about finding modest clothing pieces that would not only accommodate a growing bump, but also keep me as cool as possible. I also plan to use this robe postpartum and nurse in it while at home.
Casual to Church
With it warming up, it is very tricky to still stay cute but still have modest clothing options! I have been wearing this dress at a minimum of once a week and it is my absolute favorite! I love wearing it out shopping or to run errands because of how stretchy and soft the fabric is.
This is an absolute staple in every expecting mama's closet, because you can literally pair it with anything! On this day I paired it with some ankle peep toe booties, a jean jacket, and a fun felt hat.
You can wear it with sandals, add a cardigan, fun necklace, anything really! I love how stretchy the midsection is because I really wanted pieces I could wear comfortably the entire pregnancy.
To transition this cute maternity dress for church, I paired it with a white denim vest and lace up flats. I like to be comfortable for church and this outfit is perfect by adding that extra layer without being bulky.
Dress: Shop Pink Blush | Booties: Burlington Coat Factory | Hat & Black Flats Target | Denim Jacket: & Vest Walmart
Work to Date Night
While I am lucky enough to work from home, we frequently have work meetings and business conferences. This dress was the perfect fit for those video conferences because it looks professional and put together.
I love the wrap detailing and honestly I'm still blown away at how gorgeous this color is! The online photos don't do it justice at all, it is a gorgeous raspberry pink/red color and is perfect for the summer months.
I paired this darling dress with a lace blazer and blush pink flats. This is perfect for those mamas that are also working and need an easy yet comfortable look that is still office appropriate!
I will be wearing this a lot this spring and summer because the fabric is so soft and even with the three quarter sleeves it is very breathable. Also a HUGE bonus about this dress is its nursing friendly!
This is a textbook example of the perfect day to night transitional piece! It is not only work appropriate, but also perfect for date nights or nights on the town! I enjoyed a yummy dinner with my husband and didn't have to worry about feeling bloated (or looking it!) because of how forgiving this dress is.
I can't wait to wear this even after this pregnancy because of how flattering it is. For this look I just paired it with some heels, but you can definitely stick with your flats for comfort.
Dress: Shop Pink Blush | Flats: H&M | Blazer: Target
Maternity Photos to Baby Shower
When I saw this dress online I immediately had a vision and plan for it! My mind went straight to bohemian and I was inspired by the flowy, lace detailing and I knew it would look gorgeous for photos.
My husband captured maternity photos in this beauty and I paired it with a flower crown and some bracelets. While my bump is still growing, I plan on taking some more photos later on! While this dress isn't as stretchy as the other two, you definitely have a lot of room to grow in it.
This dress is such amazing quality and I love the slightly longer train for the hem. The lace collar was such a sweet, delicate touch and I love this dress that much more because of these details!
I will say though, it is a bit long. I am 5'3 and wore heels, so if you are short like me you may want to look into getting it hemmed and taken up a tad. I plan on wearing this for my baby shower in June and thought it would be oh so perfect because it just feels so elegant and made me feel beautiful (which is most important in my opinion)!
Dress: Shop Pink Blush | Accessories: gifts | Flower Crown: Claire's
I hope this post helped give y'all ideas and inspiration! I know it can be so overwhelming buying a whole new wardrobe for your new body, but having these staple items in your wardrobe can really simplify things and get you the most bang for your buck. I would love to know what your most coveted pregnancy essential has been, whether you are a first time mom or seasoned, I love hearing what was a huge life saver for you! Thank you for reading and have a great week!
I am sure some of you might be growing tiresome of me talking about this little one, but honestly when you have waited for something for so long, it's so hard not to talk about it! Our life lately has been pretty monotonous, with us both working full time I have been struggling with still putting my heart and soul into this blog! I love blogging more than anything and I don't plan on stopping anytime soon, I just need to figure out how to balance my time better!
J is still enjoying his job and has been flying a lot after work. I work from home for an online college so that takes up the majority of my day, and I am also working to finish my Pharmacy Technician program! We are staying pretty busy and cherish every moment we get together.
I am so so excited to begin the nursery process! We probably won't get a crib for awhile because I plan on having a co sleeper in our room. But, I'm excited to start the closet, set up the changing table and dresser, and add in the cute little details that will make the room more of the baby's. I have always had the theme picked out if it was a boy, and J came up with the cutest idea for a girl, so I am just ready to know what we are doing and get to it!
While we do know the gender, we are waiting until this next appointment to announce because I have a fear of it changing on us! There have been a lot of mom's reporting that it changes or they got it wrong, and I don't want that to happen so we are waiting to have it confirmed by the doctor.
I am now 15 weeks (16 weeks tomorrow!) and have filmed a pregnancy update. I also have a maternity clothing haul filmed, but I'm debating on if I want my lookbook to go up first or not.
Thank you for stopping by The Strattons Blog! Here are snippets of my life, motherhood, and the military!