Hi everyone! I don't know if you can relate, but when my spouse is away, I love wearing things that make me think of us. Of course my wedding rings do this, but I also love wearing my wifey shirts and other things customized to me.
I recently discovered The Dainty Pear & the darling hand stamped jewelry, which is all customizable. Sarah, the owner, is the sweetest person and her business is just darling! I love the daintiness and how it is personalized.
My necklace is J and I's anniversary date in roman numerals. I love how unique it is & that is just for me! The quality of this necklace is undeniable and I love the gold finish.
Our anniversary date is January 5, 2015 and I have been wearing this constantly! With J being gone, I love wearing it as an additional reminder of our love + the fact that it is more subtle and is more for me.
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I love to get my hair styled, have my nails done, etc. Especially with James coming home soon, I want to look my absolute best! While you don't have to do all of that, there is just something so special about treating & pampering yourself!
Y'all know I am all about saving a few bucks and I have been overdue for a mani/pedi & just an overall pampering session for myself; so what is a girl to do?
If you remember awhile back, I posted about Groupon and their coupons, I knew that would be the first place I look!
I love their website and how easy it is to use. Groupon.com found all different nail salons and spas near me, and the deals they have going on. I have found salons that I didn't even know about and I have found some great deals at the same time. It's a win win!
I love having my Groupon account automatically logged in, so all nearby deals & coupons are tailored to my area.
If you are someone who needs a little extra pampering, head over to the Health, Beauty, and Wellness coupons! Groupon is completely free & I love that I can find deals and coupons, because I am saving money on everyday things!
What are some things you love to save money on? What is your go to pampering for yourself? I'd love to know down below!
I got married at 18 years old.
Being married so young in the military, meant that we had double the statistics of the divorce rates thrown at us. 60% of marriages from 20-25 end in divorce. Army divorce rate is at 3.9%, but keep in mind the military only makes up 4% of the population.
I have been told about all sorts of disadvantages to marrying young in the military, but why is it so hard to believe there are so many perks? There is a bright side to this whole younger generation living the military life.
I knew that getting married at 18 would mean a lot of hardships and obstacles we would have to overcome. Moving out of my family home and moving to a completely new state had me thinking, 'what the heck did I get myself into?'
But the thing is, I knew that I wanted to get married to J. I knew things would be hard and I knew that above anything this would be one heck of a rollercoaster! Any marriage can have issues, but the plus about being young is you usually have less baggage. You are both just starting out in life and get to grow up together in a sense.
J was already well established in his military career, so I felt like I had a ton of learning to do on my own. It was an advantage though, because he already built his career and knew the Army life pretty well, that I could learn from him and any questions I had, he could answer!
So, here are a few things that young military couples get to experience and the perks that come.
Becoming an Adult.
I know it is common to think that when someone turns 18, they are an adult. Wrong! I have heard, and met, so many people 18 and older that still do not show they are adults. There are kids doing awful things, living off their parents, having zero responsibilities… Then, you take a young military couple. Some girls are just fresh out of high school and are waiting for their man to finish basic, or are even planning a huge move across the country with their husband. It is so not a normal thing to do in your early adult years, but with this lifestyle, you learn to be an adult so much sooner. You become more responsible for yourself, both financially and physically. There is nothing wrong with either scenario, but as a young military wife I have found myself becoming more and more of an adult, the more and more I receive responsibilities.
Because most girls marry their significant other when they are just starting their military career, you get to be there for progressions and promotions. You get to be there for their basic & AIT graduations, when they have any promotions, you get to watch your man grow in his military career. Being there from the beginning allows the two of you to celebrate together! You have the sense of pride for your significant other, and he gets to have you there by his side through it all.
"I get to adjust to the life as he progresses in the military. Like when we started dating he was a PFC. Now we've been married for little over a year he's a SPC about to be a SGT." - Samantha Bills
Flexible & Adjustable
Because I was just out of high school, I didn't already have any prior commitments. I didn't have a full time job or school I had commitments to, so I was flexible to move whenever and wherever. Us young military wives are a certain breed of easy going, because we can just pick up and move with ease. I'm not saying being an older wife is impossible, it is just easier because we are just now building our lives. We can adjust to changes a lot easier, like adjusting to a new area and building our lives from there. Having fewer life commitments allows us to be more flexible with schedules and whatever the military throws at us.
We make do.
Because we are young, we don't really care, and sometimes can't afford, to have a huge extravagant wedding. Most of the time, we have a year or less to plan a wedding, which can be a good or bad thing haha. We got married by a Justice of the Peace and that was that. So many young military couples get married in courthouses and just can make do, because that is the least of priorities.
We also make do with living in new states, finding new jobs, and doing our best to get through school. With young military wives, we have low expectations when getting into this, so we are more room and optimism in making do with our situations. This allows us to always look on the bright side of things, because with lower expectations, we can find the good and happy side to all of this.
Building Marriage & Trust
An additional perk to this, is you are their for your soldier. Because they are younger as well, don't think they never feel afraid when going into basic or a deployment. You are there for them every step of the way, and serve as their best friend. You, in a sense, are the only stable thing in their life and they will have a mountain of fears, but with you by their side; anything is possible. You weren't the only one who left your family home and moved to a new state. Your soldier is facing fear head on, but because you are both young and are going through similar emotions, you can conquer fears together. This military lifestyle will be new to the both of you, so relying on each other to get through it is a huge marriage and relationship builder.
What is something you have realized or found out about being married young in the military?
Things will be crazy for the two of you. You won't have everything together, things don't go as planned, and this is a huge learning process. But, you are not alone! Getting married young in the military is a huge blessing. If you really feel you are ready and can take on being married, I say follow your heart and pray. This lifestyle isn't for everyone, but there are so many perks to it! I would love to hear your thoughts & your marriage story down below if you would be open to sharing!
Because we are young, it is nice knowing we aren't alone and have other girls we can befriend and relate to. So, there are my 5 advantages to being married younger in the military.
I treaded my way to the bathroom and almost scared myself. I am the definition of a hot mess.
It’s noon and I still haven’t done my hair, makeup, or changed out of my pj’s.
In fact, I have yet to brush my teeth.
Some may look at me and think I have just lost it and sunk into a depression. In reality, it’s just my way of dealing with my husband being gone.
My routine has been messed up and my best friend, my everyday partner, is now on the other side of the world: and I’m a hot mess.
Not every day is like this, trust me. Some days I spend all day out of the house, running errands and keeping myself occupied. But, then there’s days like today.
Where I would give anything to have him walk through the front door and give me a big hug.
I even miss the bathroom light being on while he is getting ready, even though I complained every time.
On occasion, I’m so tempted to stay in bed the entire day and watch Hulu. Other days I want to work out so I am in the best shape possible for when he gets home.
This is just the reality of when your husband is gone. You are a time bomb of emotions and sometimes you just need to eat pizza for breakfast and have chocolate for dinner.
Just know you are not alone, as so many military spouses feel the similar need to just be 'bumming it'. While a long distance separation like this can bring you down, there is so many positive things that I, and other milspouses, have learned.
I feel like during this deployment I learned so much about myself. I feel like I grew as a person. I learned more about who I am, what I want, and a little about what makes me tick. If you are currently going through a deployment, use this time to better yourself and to learn about yourself. - excerpt from Singing Through the Rain
I am just sharing the reality of the situation. I don't want to sugarcoat anything because it does stink big time.
I am grateful I have some family and friends around me, but I find myself just needing my alone time and wishing he was here.
It's been a few months now, and I thought I was better at dealing with this, since we already went through a long deployment. But really, how can you ever get used to spending time away from your husband?
What are some realities of your husband being gone?
I wanted to make a post all about my puppy. I have shared a little in the past about her, but never the beginning and what made us choose her! We are huge dog people and this little girl stole our hearts. Also, enjoy some fun anecdotes from this past year. Pepper will be turning one year old in September, which is crazy how fast time flies!
When James and I first started dating and got married, we each had our own dogs. He had his sweet I-only-listen-to-dad Harley and I had my Gus. They were our boys, but with our extremely last minute move to Utah, we had to get homes for them. (since it was so sudden, there was little apartment availability and none of them allowed pets) My mom was able to keep Gus for me, and we gave Harley to a family with a little boy who instantly fell in love with him. My Gus ended up passing away that summer so essentially, we had both lost our babies.
Fast forward to the fall, we got the news James got a job in Colorado. I got so excited because this meant we could finally get a dog. When we got the date we were moving, we scoured KSL and Facebook groups for puppies that would be available at a time that lined up with our move date. We were debating between Great Danes or Cocker Spaniels, but then I imagined myself training and walking a Great Dane and having to potty train it.... So we ultimately decided cocker spaniels were the best option.
One day on KSL, after tirelessly stalking the poor website for any new postings about Cocker Spaniels, one new listing caught our eye. It was a full litter of black and white Cockers and they were the cutest things!
There was one particular puppy that caught our eye because she had the sweetest face and her back markings were a zig zag. We knew we had to have her! I texted the poster and long story short we bought her and drove down one time to see her at a few weeks old.
one of the first pictures we received of her! Look at that sweet face!
so why a cocker spaniel? James grew up having a cocker spaniel and has loved them ever since. I love smaller fluffy dogs, so a cocker was the perfect fit for both of us. After further research, and what James has told me, cocker spaniels are very dependent on their owners and tend to stick to them. This has been proven so true, as Pepper trusts very little people and is always by my side. I love that she is so dependent and since we spend a lot of time together, it makes me happy knowing I am not alone and she will always be there.
When we finally were able to pick her up, I was giddy with excitement! The family we bought her from were the absolute sweetest and we were lucky to find such nice people to get a puppy from. The whole ride home Pepper was crawling up me and would just want to sit on my shoulders haha. It was so cute and funny! James has a thing where when you get a new pet, the first thing you do is take them to Petsmart to get their first collar and toy.
We let Pepper pick out her first toy and she loved this duck stuffed animal. As we were leaving, we realized we had a long drive back up to his parent's house so we figured we'd have her try and go potty... I kid you not, James set her down and she squatted and did her business. We looked at each other in awe and joked we got a puppy that was already potty trained! haha Even at his parent's home, she did the same thing and didn't have any accidents. Score! I did a lot of research before hand, and wanted to
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