I tell everyone that our dog is our first baby, and it's true! Pepper recently turned two years old and we've had her since she was a new puppy. She was our baby and the first addition to our little family. When I had our baby, I was so afraid of how Pepper would feel and react. I wanted to make sure that she still felt loved, had playtime, and most importantly had her needs met.
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With my busier new schedule, I've tried to make it a priority that she still gets the love and attention she deserves. If you are a busy pet owner as well, this one's for you!
Introduce your dog to your baby on their terms, but with your leadership. When we first brought her home, we greeted Pepper and loved on her while keeping our baby in her car seat. We sat the seat down and let Pepper approach it slowly. She gets anxious easily, so we didn't want to overwhelm her. She took her time and sniffed everything out and took to her well. She keeps her distance because Pepper feels like this whole baby crying thing is not for her, but likes to come up and sniff her still.
The way to my dog's heart is food. Seriously, anytime she hears that food hitting her bowl she acts like she's never seen food before! Ha ha Because she loves food so much, I wanted to make sure she got the best of the best. Science Diet is awesome because there are no artificial flavors, colors, or preservatives. Starting with a good dog food is key to not only keeping your pet happy, but keeping you happy too! This dog food supports a healthy immune system with a clinically proven blend of antioxidants with Vitamins C and E. This may seem like an irrelevant point but just as us humans need vitamins, so do our pups.
Playtime is so essential, especially now that they aren't your only area of focus. Pepper and I used to play all day everyday, but now with a baby that has a lot of needs, it's just not possible. So, I've learned to carve out time to play with Pepper. This doesn't always have to be strictly one on one time, and you can get creative. I put my baby in a carrier and head outside to throw the ball (her favorite activity) or her toys. Even though I can't go run around with her, she's still getting exercise and playtime.
Including your pet is a great way to keep them happy. I take my baby on walks with the stroller and bring Pepper along. It's good to get out of the house and she loves to explore, and sniff, everything! Keeping them included in tasks they are able to be a part of keeps them a part of the family and have that stimulation. When our baby is up in the middle of the night and needs a car ride around the block, Pepper is more than welcome to tag along and come with.
Now I'll get real with y'all, it is so hard to make sure all of her needs are met. I can't tell you how many times I've had to make late night store runs to get more dog food for her because I simply forget or don't have the time. If you have mom brain like I do, or are too busy to make those tripsAmazon Subscribe and Save is the answer. You can easily subscribe toScience Diet dog food and have it delivered automatically, however often and much you want. #gamechanger You set up the free regular delivery times AND you save up to 15% each time and more. This dog food is Vet's #1 choice to feed their own pets and easily my #1 for the great convenience of it being delivered to my door step!
Focus on your dog's behavior. If your dog seems sad, you may need to give them more attention. Watch out for aggression cues and try to be proactive. Some dogs are just naturally aggressive towards children, and others are born out of jealousy. Keeping your pup happy and well loved will hopefully curb envy, but never ignore a dog's cues to their attitude. Also, your dog may become depressed and not eat as much which could result in a trip to the Vet. Keeping a close eye on your pooch is never a bad idea, you know them better than anyone!
I know if Pepper could speak, she would agree 100% that spoiling your dog is beneficial! Take them to a trip to the store and buy a treat, give them that extra belly rub, and maybe even give in and let them lay on the couch (totally guilty!). Keeping your pet happy, especially as you are all adjusting to this new life, is definitely possible. Don't feel frustrated or stressed about keeping everyone alive. Your pet loves you and will adjust, too. I love that I have one less thing to worry about with knowing Science Diet is made with natural, high quality ingredients; and I just have to open my door to get it. If you are wanting to get it a go, it's 100% satisfaction guaranteed or your money back. Here is to a happy and healthy pup, fur parents can enjoy convenience without sacrificing quality time with family!
It has been nearly three weeks now that I've had my baby and it has been a whirlwind of emotions. While I am so blissfully in love with her and with being a mom, I have found myself pulling towards the opposite end of the spectrum. I know baby blues are very common, and I think my struggle with Breastfeeding has a lot to do with my feelings of inadequacy and anxiousness. After you have your baby, you just have such a rush of hormones where you find yourself feeling a certain way and have no control over it.
Dress c/o Shop Pink Blush (all opinions are my own, I picked out this adorable dress to review & obviously rock it in my wardrobe!)
Accepting your Postpartum body is a huge wave of emotions all tied into one look in the mirror. You are already a jumble of emotions and to mix in sleep deprivation, caring for a new baby, and then having to accept your new body; it can be overwhelming. I look down with pride at my stretch marks and think of the long hard journey it was for these markings to become part of my appearance. I prayed so hard for this baby and I would take any aftermath with humble gratitude. I know stretch marks tend to tear away at mothers' confidence thinking they look less beautiful and are now imperfect because of these markings. I know it's easier said than done to look at your stomach or thighs and think "oh man this is beautiful", but they are. Your body made room for a baby and stretched itself to its limits to accommodate them. How magnificent is it that our bodies can work in such a way that creates a life?
You may not lose all of the weight as quickly as you seemed to gain it, but that's okay. Your health and sanity greatly outweigh those few extra pounds that helped support your baby's journey on this earth.
I know I personally am having a time accepting my new body, I have always been small and it was a bit hard for me going through the pregnancy and seeing the numbers go up. Not because I expected to be one hundred pounds and still somehow grow a baby, but it was just hard psychologically to experience that change and accept it.
For me, I have been cautious of the psychological damage putting on my pre pregnancy clothes could do. I have been wearing a lot of my maternity clothes, but also relying a lot on more loose fitting clothes that I can be comfortable in. I know this may seem so simple, but avoiding your smaller clothes can make a world of a difference and it's one less thing for me to stress about and let's me focus my energy on my baby! I feel happier because not only am I getting dressed in the morning but I can focus more on being happy and accepting my new body.
As a new mom, I cherish the times that we are getting out of the house and I switch out of my nursing robes (I alternate between my two from Shop Pink Blush, they are so comfy!) and put on real clothes for the day ha ha! I love the fall time and it works perfectly that this is the season of layers and more loose fit clothing! Use the colder months to your advantage mamas!
I adore this dress from Shop Pink Blush and know I'll be styling it a lot during this fall season. This outfit was super comfy throughout our entire day. I pumped before we left and when we got back to his sister's house, so I know it's not the most nursing friendly look. I will have outfits soon that are though, so be on the look out! This dress is great for any woman honestly, I feel like it's so flattering and loose in the right places. I can't wait to dress it up and down this season, I have so many different ideas.
How would you style it?
Looking down at this little girl and having her snuggle up in my arms, makes the stretch marks and extra weight fade away. I made this and my body somehow carried an almost 9 pound baby which I think is a miracle in itself. You had a baby mama, don't feel in such a rush to go back to your pre baby body, your life is different now and that's a high expectation to put on yourself. You have a new life now, so look at all your stretchmarks, extra weight, and scars with pride that they all had a hand in making you a mom.
Breastfeeding was always my plan for my children. "Breast is Best" is always toted around and I couldn't fathom why moms would want to pay so much for formula when they have free milk already enstilled. I loved the idea of having that bond with my baby, giving her the valuable nutrients she needed, and I've heard from other moms how amazing it was.
Well, things didn't exactly go as planned.
Shortly after giving birth, we moved up to our room and I was helped by my nurse to have our first feeding. This was it, my time to finally have my mom moment. And, she couldn't latch right. I was in so much pain and I felt frustrated but I wasn't ready to throw in the towel. A lactation consultant came in several times and she was a saint. She showed me how to cup my breast, how Savvy was supposed to be angled, and also different positions to hold her in.
But still we just couldn't get it right. We discovered she had a shallow latch and at this point I was so raw and was bleeding a bit, it was not the special and magical moment I had envisioned.
At 3 am during my hospital stay, she was hungry. I followed each step how I was showed, and even then she was screaming and just hungry. I didn't know what to do. I was alone (husband was passed out on the couch bed ha ha) and sleep deprived. My angel of a nurse came in and tried helping, and ultimately she suggested she warm up some donor breast milk so she could eat. I lost it. I couldn't provide for my baby and I was the biggest failure of a mom. The ONE thing I thought would just happen and be a long with the postpartum process was stripped from me. I felt inadequate and like I failed her. We fed her donor milk the rest of the stay while I filled syringes and table spoons with colostrum.
When it was time to go home, I accepted that we would just formula feed her and I would continue pumping while my milk came in. In the very least, when my milk was to come she would be getting that so it wasn't all bad. But, still I felt like I had failed and looking back now this caused me a lot of postpartum stress and anxiety. I would cry at night as I held her and offered her bottles, and saw how intently she would guzzle them down and enter a milk coma. I was a pumping machine, literally. I wanted to give her the best and was pumping every two hours and now I have an oversupply stored away.
I wasn't ready to give up. I spoke to my mom about waiting too long and how she may not want to latch at all, so a few days later I decided it was now or never. I picked up my nipple shield, got situated with some support pillows, and was handed my baby. Immediately on the first attempt, she latched perfectly.
Now, don't think it was some fairytale ending from there. She still has a short latch and sometimes it feels like she is intentionally wanting them to rip off ha ha. I wince through the pain and continue to try again until it's comfortable. I believe those days of bottle feeding truly helped her with using the nipple shield so in a way I'm thankful for our struggle.
Sharing this bond together is the best blessing, because this is what I wanted. It's still pain and I have come to terms that I will never be like those super crunchy moms that can just nurse wherever they are, not having to look down to make sure baby latches right.
My point of this post is breastfeeding is hard and it doesn't always work out for every mom. You may get the latch perfectly from your first try, you may find you're a pumping goddess, or you may even find you're the best mom for keeping your baby fed and full with formula. Whatever you find works best for you and your baby, own it. We do all three still and when she's laying there with milk dribbling down her cheek after passing out, I know that she is getting exactly what she needs from parents that love her.
Find ways to bond and make each feeding special. Do skin to skin time, hold your baby close, and know that no matter what is in that bottle: you are providing for your little one.
Throw away the mom guilt and shame others, or you, may bring on. I suck at Breastfeeding but I know I'm giving it my all. It took a lot of self pep talk to return her to the boob. I lived in fear of that pain again and then I felt even more guilt for fearing every time she got hungry. What kind of monster mom was I to not look forward to my baby needing food? I felt stripped down and like I got cheated out of being a natural of a mom.
Now I look forward to feeding because whether it's from my breast or a bottle, that's are special time for me to sit there, hold her, and meet her needs. And mamas, that's all your baby is really going to care about in the end. Feeding your baby is what's most important and no mom should feel guilty for not feeding their babe a certain way. I had to learn to take myself out of it and not be so caught up on my wants for motherhood were, and focus more on what my baby's wants and needs are. Most importantly, having support around you is crucial. Below are some resources you can check out for some support locally, or virtually! I suck at breastfeeding, but I am feeling less and less guilty about it.
Find a lactation consultant near you.
Join a Breastfeeding group.
Join a Pumping group.
Join a Formula group.
How has it already been a week since I had our baby?! I feel like time is going by way too quickly. I've had a ton of help from both my mom and dad, along with the hubs of course, which has made the postpartum recovery a lot more bearable. Pushing out an almost 9 pound baby is no joke y'all! I thankfully was given a lot of advice from my mom and other moms on great postpartum must haves and here is a list of things I have incorporated into my daily routine.
I wore this shirt from Shop Pink Blush on repeat during my pregnancy, and nothing has changed since being postpartum! Comfy, loose clothing is essential. You are still losing the baby weight and probably don't even want to try on your regular clothes yet. I love having a transitional top like this because it doesn't even look maternity and it hides my stomach as I am working towards my normal body again. Don't pack away your maternity clothes just yet, get as much use out of them as you can!
I literally don't leave the house anymore without this Jasemet cover. I am either wearing it, or I have it packed in the diaper bag for the carseat. It's a multi purpose cover acting as a nursing, car seat, shopping cart, and highchair cover. And when you don't need it you can just wear it as a scarf! I am new to nursing obviously, but if you follow me on Instagram you'll know it's been a struggle of a journey to get there. I love having this cover because I can comfortably nurse her wherever we are, which has had to happen. (I even used to cover while I pumped in the car ha ha!) Seriously I can't say enough great things about this, you can buy yours here!
For the pumping mamas, buy yourself a pumping bra ASAP. Holding the bottles up for 20 minutes is no fun, so save your sanity at 3 am and buy a bra that holds them up for you. This allows me to drink my water, play on my phone, and yes even blog! I look forward to my pumping sessions now because it's like my new me time. My hubby got this one on amazon and I know there is a lot of different styles and colors.
I apply nipple cream after each time I feed or pump, and I also apply it to my pumping funnel to act as a lubricant ( a tip from my lactation consultant!). I was given the medela in the hospital, but use the Lansinoh more often. When I run out, I'll probably switch back to the Medela because I feel it melts faster and feels more relieving.
These gel nursing pads I alternate throughout the day, because they can be heated up or frozen. I'll usually put them in the freezer at night and put them on sometime in the morning time to help relieve some pain. Then throughout the day I'll pop them in the microwave and wear them, or attach them to the outside of my pumping funnels to help with let down and it feels good to have the warmth around too! These are available at Target, but I'm sure you can find them anywhere. Seriously these are a game changer if you don't have time for a quick hot shower or applying a warm washcloth!
And last but not least, another essential for the girls! I wear these nursing pads all day every day in my bra, and were a huge help when my milk was coming in too. I like these because they are soft, I just put them inside my bra and you wouldn't even know! No leaking, no problem ha ha. It also comes in a handy mesh bag to keep them in when washing which is super helpful as well.
I hope this helps you first time mamas, because like I said I was given a lot of advice from other mamas and found it super helpful to hear what they used after baby! It didn't occur to me just how much my every day routine would change when she got here, so having these little things incorporated make the days run a whole lot smoother. I would love to hear what your postpartum essentials are below, I am sure there are some things out there that could be a game changer too!
Savannah Rachel entered the world on August 29th at 4:58 am. She weighed 8 pounds 13.5 ounces and was 21 inches long.
Monday, August 28th, we went in for my 40 week doctor's appointment. I was overdue by 2 days and my midwife was very surprised because she was sure I would go into labor that previous week. With Hurricane Harvey, my husband's unit had a high possibility of leaving to go help (perks of being a medevac unit). It kicked us into high gear and we talked to the midwife about possibly inducing, because there was no way we wanted him to miss the birth of our first baby if we could help it! She immediately understood and went to go see when we could get scheduled in. She came back and said "tonight?" and we took it.
It was a bit like an 'oh my gosh is this really happening' moment at the thought of having our baby so soon and having a date on it. She checked me and I was 3 cm dilated which was one more than last week, but still 50% effaced. We went home and called my mom so she could book her flight. It was such a relief to have it all planned, and we were to come back at 8 pm that day. I rested throughout the day, ate my last meals, and took a short bath thinking this is the last time I am going to spend with this bump. It was bittersweet, but I was so ready for her to be here!
We drove back to the hospital, with our bags that had been packed for about a month now in tow, and checked in with the hospital to make sure that time was still good. They told us we could come in at 7 which worked out perfectly because that's about when we were going to arrive anyways. We went straight to the labor and delivery floor, carrying all of our bags and a pillow. I was so nervous and just soaking everything in. We got to a room and my mom arrived not too long after. The plan was to rest some and we got the IV started and baby monitor put on. At around 10 everything was ready and they could start the pitocin to begin the contractions. My nurse Mary was the most amazing gift ever and I'll forever remember how sweet and helpful she was. But, she did mentally prepare us to be here for 2-3 days because inductions can sometimes take that long.
The pitocin acted quickly and I started feeling contractions like I've never felt before. She would bump it up a level every 30 minutes and we just had to wait until they were consistently 2-3 minutes apart before the doctor would come in to break my water. I tried to sleep during all of this, but sleeping while having contractions isn't very doable! I was at 4 cm dilated which was a good sign, but with how much pain I was in, I was feeling like it was more than that. Mary came back in just to check on baby's heartbeat because the dang monitor kept sliding around and it was hard to get a read on the contractions as well. My mom stepped out into the hall at this same time, and James was asleep on the couch bed. All of a sudden I felt a pop and a release of fluid, and I said "Mary... I think my water just broke." She was a little shocked, but checked the fluid with a strip and confirmed it did break and helped me out of bed to clean up because I was still wearing the clothes I came in. We changed me into a robe and I got back in bed still waiting for the contractions to pick up.
I got out of bed when I could to get on the exercise ball they provided me and just did breathing through every contraction. I am pretty proud of myself to not even cry one time, because I am such a huge baby! Some were labored breathing and were just so painful I couldn't take a huge breath in. James started rubbing my back and all of a sudden a huge gush came and my full water broke at midnight. There was a huge puddle and they had to help me off this ball so I wouldn't slip, it was probably pretty comical! I got back into bed and I was at 6 cm dilated and I tried to rest until they could come in to give me my epidural. I was scared of getting it too early, but at this point I didn't want to wait any longer because I didn't want to miss out on getting it. Mary had me sit on the side of the bed and prop my feet up on James' thighs. I was hunched over on him when the man came in and didn't even want to look up at him to see what he was bringing in. I breathed through it and had a contraction both while he was putting the numbing needle in, and again when inserting the part that stung really badly. It was such a weird feeling and just felt like a big dull, achy pressure in my back. I had to stay in bed from now on so they inserted a catheter. The doctor came in and checked me and I was at 8 cm dilated now and they were ready to get things going soon. This next part is pretty hazy because I was so out of it, sleeping and having people come in and out. But I guess Sav's heartbeat was dropping so they put me on oxygen to help. They started gathering around more and soon I was at 10 cm and the doctor came back in and told me we were going to practice pushing.
My mom came over to my left, and J on my right, and they both grabbed my legs and she had me grab underneath my thighs. She told me to take a deep breath in and push when I felt my next contraction. I said "ok now" and began to push. I felt so much pain, but it wasn't how I was expecting. I could feel some pressure down there and soon I was told they could see her hair and that just encouraged me to push more. J was right next to me encouraging me and telling me to breathe and push. He was the only person I was listening to and could hear, so I am so thankful he did that. The doctor told me her head was coming out, but when I would push I would stop some and she would go back in. I didn't realize, so I just focused on pushing and breathing and soon her entire head was out! I am so shocked it didn't really hurt, the part that was the weirdest was her shoulders or midsection. Within 6 minutes of pushing, my baby girl was here and put on my chest!
I immediately start crying and just look down at this perfect little baby I made. There will never be words to describe that feeling, it's so overwhelming and I felt so much love for her; more than I had before. I held her while they stitched me up and I just remember seeing a lot of blood and felt some pain, but I didn't care because my baby was here. They let her stay on me for skin to skin for a good while, before the pediatrics team came in to clean her off more and get her measurements. J got to hold her for the first time after that and the way he looked at her was just so beautiful to me. Mary told me later and throughout the clean up process how this doesn't just happen. With me being a first time mom and this being an induction, a labor that quick isn't normal. She was telling everyone who came in and out, she was just in so much shock! Every fifteen minutes, Mary had to come in and press down on my stomach which was so painful but when you are holding your new baby in your arms, nothing else matters.
Everything settled down and we were assigned a room that we would be staying in. Mary's shift ended and a new nurse came to take over. We were getting ready to help me up so I could use the bathroom and she was called out so she had to leave suddenly. We waited almost an hour, and thankfully a pediatric nurse came in to check on Savannah, and I asked her to get the nurse back. lol She was a very scatterbrained nurse, but I was ready to go and get into our room. I was wheel chaired up there and we immediately ordered breakfast. We hadn't ate since about 6 the night before, so we were pretty much starving. I don't want to make this post too long with going into the post delivery portion, but it has been rough. I am so thankful to our Heavenly Father for this most beautiful gift and to have been chosen to be her mother. Baby Savannah is so loved and there will be many more updates to come.
Thank you all for the congrats and well wishes!
(And special thanks to my mom for being my photographer even though I wasn't the nicest at some moments!)
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