My honey is home and I never got around to sharing our homecoming photos! During J's deployment homecoming, it was literally just us and I drove to go see him. I wore a tank top and shorts and it was extremely casual and intimate.
This time around, I wanted to make it more special! I found an adorable outfit and my mom made me a super cute sign to welcome him with. He deserves so much and I am glad we finally got a bigger homecoming for him! I am so blessed to have him back, I know military spouses understand this heartbreak like no other when our men are away. To see him again, just felt like a breath of relief and my everything was finally standing in front of me again- and that feeling is indescribable.
Going through any length of separation can be hard on any couple. Whether you are going through separation because of Basic training, AIT, TDY, or deployment, I understand what you are going through! It is so hard being apart, but know it isn't impossible. Try and make time fly the best you can (I'll link helpful posts down below!) and remember why you are doing this.
You are going through this distance because your other half is creating your future together and establishing his career. You are spending nights alone so he can defend our country and learn how to protect and grow in his designated career path. You are experiencing those dropped skype calls and weeks without hearing from them, which makes you appreciate the sweet sound of their voice so much more. If you are younger and still living at home, of course miss him, but use this time to love and appreciate time with your family, as you will most likely be moving away from them shortly and starting your own life. Trust me, there are many obstacles when distance comes into play, but stay strong and be supportive during the duration. Best of luck to you and your military significant other. The longer the wait, the sweeter the kiss.
You know in Marley & Me when John gets concerned she wants a baby, so his friend convinces him to get a dog so she can learn responsibility + be cured of baby fever?
While J and I are aching for a baby, I feel so blessed to have raised Pepper this past year. She is my baby before my baby. Raising a puppy is no easy task, but I highly doubt it compares to raising a child.
Raising her has taught me so much about myself and our marriage. We’ve learned how we mesh as parents and how we want our household to function.
Who knew a dog could do all of that?
This past weekend my uncle came to visit with his wife and their new baby. Pepper was so unsure about the baby at first, but eventually warmed up and was very intrigued in this little thing I had in my arms.
It gave me a glimpse of the future and how she would react to our future children. She is so spoiled and will definitely have first/only child attitude, but I have a feeling she will love them and be their protector.
My baby before my baby has been such a blessing in disguise. She is teaching me so much responsibility, how to stick to schedules, and how to develop patience.
I am a crazy dog mom & Lord help our future children! haha I spoil the heck out of her and buy her more toys and clothes than I do for my own wants. But it is that kind of selflessness that you need when you have children.
Don't take advantage of your fur children and their time with them. I value this time so much, because a puppy deserves one on one time for training and love, and she is teaching me in so many ways as well!
Do you have any fur children? Have they been your practice before your kids?
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If you read my post from a little bit ago, you would know I sometimes don't take care of myself. I'll want to stay in bed all day, be lazy, and slack on responsibilities. This post is not only for you who may be feeling a similar mindset, but for me as well.
Taking care of yourself is so important, and yes even if you don't have someone to look good for, it's a great feeling to do it for you. While self care can often times be seen as taking care of yourself physically, you also need to take care of your physical and spiritual well being. Often times doing things for or with others can make you feel better and less alone.
1. Paint your nails & toes (at home or get them done)
2. Tour your town
3. Read the Bible (or pick up Bible journaling)
4. Try a new hairstyle
5. Buy a new outfit
6. Find new outfits through your closet (this saves money & allows you to get creative)
7. Watch your favorite movie
8. Work out
9. Try new meals
10. Do a photoshoot (great gift for you and for your hubby!)
11. Go on a walk
12. See a movie with friends (or go alone, more popcorn for you!)
13. Try a DIY project
14. Visit family
15. Write in a journal
16. Plan out your next week or month (this & this planner look very nice!)
17. Do yoga
18. Read a new book
19. Buy a new plant or tend your garden
20. Volunteer (animal shelter, FRG group events, church nursery, making food for missionaries)
21. Take a long bubble bath (I suggest this bubble bath, it is the best!)
23.Write a letter to someone (I'm sure your spouse would love a letter!)
24. Clean your house (it is never too late to spring clean)
25. Listen to music & create a playlist
26. Learn a new skill or talent (I have yet to learn how to ride a bike & want to!)
27. Play a word game or puzzle
28. Watch the sunset
29. Watch a talk or worship service online
30. Get up early and make breakfast for yourself (challenge: without looking at your phone first!)
What is something that you do to take care of yourself? I'd love to know down below. Taking care of yourself is so important and I've found myself feeling so much happier and productive after doing some of these things. I'm not the best at it by any means, but I encourage you to practice self care, especially when your husband is gone. Stay strong & God bless!
I treaded my way to the bathroom and almost scared myself. I am the definition of a hot mess.
It’s noon and I still haven’t done my hair, makeup, or changed out of my pj’s.
In fact, I have yet to brush my teeth.
Some may look at me and think I have just lost it and sunk into a depression. In reality, it’s just my way of dealing with my husband being gone.
My routine has been messed up and my best friend, my everyday partner, is now on the other side of the world: and I’m a hot mess.
Not every day is like this, trust me. Some days I spend all day out of the house, running errands and keeping myself occupied. But, then there’s days like today.
Where I would give anything to have him walk through the front door and give me a big hug.
I even miss the bathroom light being on while he is getting ready, even though I complained every time.
On occasion, I’m so tempted to stay in bed the entire day and watch Hulu. Other days I want to work out so I am in the best shape possible for when he gets home.
This is just the reality of when your husband is gone. You are a time bomb of emotions and sometimes you just need to eat pizza for breakfast and have chocolate for dinner.
Just know you are not alone, as so many military spouses feel the similar need to just be 'bumming it'. While a long distance separation like this can bring you down, there is so many positive things that I, and other milspouses, have learned.
I feel like during this deployment I learned so much about myself. I feel like I grew as a person. I learned more about who I am, what I want, and a little about what makes me tick. If you are currently going through a deployment, use this time to better yourself and to learn about yourself. - excerpt from Singing Through the Rain
I am just sharing the reality of the situation. I don't want to sugarcoat anything because it does stink big time.
I am grateful I have some family and friends around me, but I find myself just needing my alone time and wishing he was here.
It's been a few months now, and I thought I was better at dealing with this, since we already went through a long deployment. But really, how can you ever get used to spending time away from your husband?
What are some realities of your husband being gone?
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
I am what others would call old school. I believe in the traditional household where the man works and provides for his family while the woman stays home and tends to the house and children. (Read about our ttc story)
I take great delight in serving my husband and try to be the best wife I can be to him. I think there is a delusion in being a stay at home wife, as if wives sit at home and spend all of their husband's money. A marriage is a union, where each person serves the other in different aspects. But ultimately we serve the Lord.
As the bible verse above says, just like Christ is the head of the church, the husband is the head of the wife and household. I positively feel we are equal partners in decision making and family matters, but I do think there is a distinction and every household needs someone in the leadership role. My job is to serve my husband & I don't think I would want it any other way.
I think the most important thing to take from this, is to know serving your husband isn't to lose a part of yourself. But instead it is to be more Christ like and remember your marriage was a vow made before God, so treat it as the most precious thing.
The word serve is a commonly misconstrued, as if I am doting on him hand and foot. I believe to serve your husband is more to give as much as he does into the marriage. To serve him is to love him unconditionally and take care of things in the household. We both put in work and 100% of our effort which allows us to work together seamlessly.
While he works for the military, my duties all are related to taking care of our home. I blog, do all the cooking, and keep the house clean. Also, during our first year of marriage I was going to school and I am now planning on going back soon. I also volunteered for my husband's unit and was the FRG leader while in Utah.
There are great sacrifices that come with one spouse staying home, with living off just one income it can cause a little more stress in the marriage. Just remember to keep everything mutual. If he is serving and providing for the home, you need to be serving and providing for the household as well.
Below, I have linked The Family: A Proclamation to the World, which is still one of my favorite things released by the church.
"“...Marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.”
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