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If you read my post from a little bit ago, you would know I sometimes don't take care of myself. I'll want to stay in bed all day, be lazy, and slack on responsibilities. This post is not only for you who may be feeling a similar mindset, but for me as well.
Taking care of yourself is so important, and yes even if you don't have someone to look good for, it's a great feeling to do it for you. While self care can often times be seen as taking care of yourself physically, you also need to take care of your physical and spiritual well being. Often times doing things for or with others can make you feel better and less alone.
1. Paint your nails & toes (at home or get them done)
2. Tour your town
3. Read the Bible (or pick up Bible journaling)
4. Try a new hairstyle
5. Buy a new outfit
6. Find new outfits through your closet (this saves money & allows you to get creative)
7. Watch your favorite movie
8. Work out
9. Try new meals
10. Do a photoshoot (great gift for you and for your hubby!)
11. Go on a walk
12. See a movie with friends (or go alone, more popcorn for you!)
13. Try a DIY project
14. Visit family
15. Write in a journal
16. Plan out your next week or month (this & this planner look very nice!)
17. Do yoga
18. Read a new book
19. Buy a new plant or tend your garden
20. Volunteer (animal shelter, FRG group events, church nursery, making food for missionaries)
21. Take a long bubble bath (I suggest this bubble bath, it is the best!)
23.Write a letter to someone (I'm sure your spouse would love a letter!)
24. Clean your house (it is never too late to spring clean)
25. Listen to music & create a playlist
26. Learn a new skill or talent (I have yet to learn how to ride a bike & want to!)
27. Play a word game or puzzle
28. Watch the sunset
29. Watch a talk or worship service online
30. Get up early and make breakfast for yourself (challenge: without looking at your phone first!)
What is something that you do to take care of yourself? I'd love to know down below. Taking care of yourself is so important and I've found myself feeling so much happier and productive after doing some of these things. I'm not the best at it by any means, but I encourage you to practice self care, especially when your husband is gone. Stay strong & God bless!
I treaded my way to the bathroom and almost scared myself. I am the definition of a hot mess.
It’s noon and I still haven’t done my hair, makeup, or changed out of my pj’s.
In fact, I have yet to brush my teeth.
Some may look at me and think I have just lost it and sunk into a depression. In reality, it’s just my way of dealing with my husband being gone.
My routine has been messed up and my best friend, my everyday partner, is now on the other side of the world: and I’m a hot mess.
Not every day is like this, trust me. Some days I spend all day out of the house, running errands and keeping myself occupied. But, then there’s days like today.
Where I would give anything to have him walk through the front door and give me a big hug.
I even miss the bathroom light being on while he is getting ready, even though I complained every time.
On occasion, I’m so tempted to stay in bed the entire day and watch Hulu. Other days I want to work out so I am in the best shape possible for when he gets home.
This is just the reality of when your husband is gone. You are a time bomb of emotions and sometimes you just need to eat pizza for breakfast and have chocolate for dinner.
Just know you are not alone, as so many military spouses feel the similar need to just be 'bumming it'. While a long distance separation like this can bring you down, there is so many positive things that I, and other milspouses, have learned.
I feel like during this deployment I learned so much about myself. I feel like I grew as a person. I learned more about who I am, what I want, and a little about what makes me tick. If you are currently going through a deployment, use this time to better yourself and to learn about yourself. - excerpt from Singing Through the Rain
I am just sharing the reality of the situation. I don't want to sugarcoat anything because it does stink big time.
I am grateful I have some family and friends around me, but I find myself just needing my alone time and wishing he was here.
It's been a few months now, and I thought I was better at dealing with this, since we already went through a long deployment. But really, how can you ever get used to spending time away from your husband?
What are some realities of your husband being gone?
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
I am what others would call old school. I believe in the traditional household where the man works and provides for his family while the woman stays home and tends to the house and children. (Read about our ttc story)
I take great delight in serving my husband and try to be the best wife I can be to him. I think there is a delusion in being a stay at home wife, as if wives sit at home and spend all of their husband's money. A marriage is a union, where each person serves the other in different aspects. But ultimately we serve the Lord.
As the bible verse above says, just like Christ is the head of the church, the husband is the head of the wife and household. I positively feel we are equal partners in decision making and family matters, but I do think there is a distinction and every household needs someone in the leadership role. My job is to serve my husband & I don't think I would want it any other way.
I think the most important thing to take from this, is to know serving your husband isn't to lose a part of yourself. But instead it is to be more Christ like and remember your marriage was a vow made before God, so treat it as the most precious thing.
The word serve is a commonly misconstrued, as if I am doting on him hand and foot. I believe to serve your husband is more to give as much as he does into the marriage. To serve him is to love him unconditionally and take care of things in the household. We both put in work and 100% of our effort which allows us to work together seamlessly.
While he works for the military, my duties all are related to taking care of our home. I blog, do all the cooking, and keep the house clean. Also, during our first year of marriage I was going to school and I am now planning on going back soon. I also volunteered for my husband's unit and was the FRG leader while in Utah.
There are great sacrifices that come with one spouse staying home, with living off just one income it can cause a little more stress in the marriage. Just remember to keep everything mutual. If he is serving and providing for the home, you need to be serving and providing for the household as well.
Below, I have linked The Family: A Proclamation to the World, which is still one of my favorite things released by the church.
"“...Marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.”
This post is sponsored, but all opinions are my own
Ever since getting married I have been a coupon queen... (Not officially titled, but I'm working on it!) I love finding the best deals, and coupons are the way to go. While getting coupons in the mail is fun, it is never a sure thing when they arrive. For this reason, I love using online coupon sites like Groupon. With over hundreds of coupons available, there is sure to be something for everyone in your family!
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Coupons and deals are so much fun to find, and I hope you got some great ideas! If you head on over to groupons.com/coupons you can see the plethora of coupons they have to offer. from food to clothes to hotels, they have everything you can imagine! Have you ever tried out Groupon? I'd love to hear down below what deals/coupons you've been able to snag! Thanks so much for reading, have a great week.
I think any military spouse can tell you: deployments suck, plain and simple. Not only does it take a toll on you emotionally, but physically too. I love having things around my home to serve as daily reminders and encouragement while my husband is gone. Whether your significant other is deployed, overseas, or in training for the military; here are 3 ways you can remember him in your home.
Photo via @hollynmerritt
1. Kisses Jar
I learned this from the sweetest family back in High School, actually around the time I first met James, and I fell in love with this idea! You get a jar and put however many days until your husband is back home, and put that many kisses in there. I love this idea and did it for James' first deployment and now for this overseas thing he is doing. I found the cutest hershey's kisses at Wal-Mart and I had to have them! (Also, they are on sale and I got them for 70 cents!)
2. Year Round Tree
Now this one is a little bit out there, but after seeing other people having a year round tree, I thought this would be a great way to remember my husband! With the military, some members are gone for the majority of the year, so we are left coping and going through the holidays alone. I was kindly sent a Christmas tree from Tree Classics, and it is so beautiful! Since it is the summertime, and Fourth of July just occurred, I did this season patriotic themed. I love that the tree is white, giving me more of a blank canvas to work on and decorate. I love and chose this particular style because of the glitter!
I bought my decorations from Wal-Mart and Hobby Lobby. I decided I wanted the main focus to be the pictures I hung and it is a great daily reminder of my sweet husband.
3. Deployment Wall
I have seen so many families do a deployment wall, and I think it's the sweetest idea ever! Since I don't have kids, I did my own little version of it, and I keep my kisses jar and my DIY flag nearby. I am keeping it a bit more simple since I do have my giant tree right next to this, and I think it all balances perfectly. I think keeping countdowns is a great way to stay strong, since you are looking forward to eating a kiss and marking down the days. I like keeping a chalkboard and chalkboard markers here and letting my little sister write the numbers, because she gets a kick out of it haha.
If you are looking for more inspiration, Emily Simmons is such a strong military spouse and mother of two (she's expecting!!) She made the cutest deployment wall for her and her little girl to enjoy. I love the idea of keeping the two time zones and a little mailbox for her husband.
Special thanks again to Tree Classics for providing me with this beautiful tree. I am so grateful they reached out to me, as they are supporters of the military community and families.
To all those going through a deployment, or any sort of long distance relationship, I hope to give you strength and motivation through this post. You are so strong, and just take one day at a time! I'd love to know down below, have you ever put something up in your home to remember your husband? I'd love to hear your ideas and tips. Thank you so much for reading!
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